In 2008 I was preparing divorce papers. But something spoke to my heart, telling me to wait and see if we could work things out. So instead I filed for legal separation.
We both began working on ourselves and on our marriage.
There were so many times I almost walked away during our separation, which lasted the next 3 years.
And when we reconciled, we had many, many things to work through.
It took us several years of trial and error (as well as a lot of study and training). But we finally came up with a set of guidelines that allows us to have productive conversations. We actually almost argue anymore. And when we do we recover much more quickly. Ten years ago I would not have thought this was possible!
We’ve both had to forgive deep wounds that would have ended most marriages. But what we found on the other side was a haven, a beautifully sculpted garden that we have carefully crafted and nurtured which brings us deeper love, joy, and connection than I knew was possible.
Building a vibrant marriage and family is the best part of my life. It's the most difficult and the most rewarding thing I've done. My family brings me tremendous joy. Yours can too. I'm looking forward to sharing my experience with you.